Turn up the heat on your love life with your husband!
Become a HOT AND HOLY LADY!
Be the great lover God intended you to be!
Unleash that HOT WIFE inside of you to enjoy the passionate, fulfilling sex life you deserve!
Sick and tired of a boring, ho-hum lackluster sex life. Sex feels like a thankless chore - about as erotic as taking out the garbage.
Dissatisfied with your intimacy. When your husband wants to "get it on" you do all you can to "turn it off" - you're just too tired, angry and stressed out to feel sexy. Your marriage lacks the juicy romance it once had.
Discouraged - You and your spouse used to set off sky-high fireworks of passion in the bedroom .. but ever since the kids arrived and life got busier, your libido is at an all-time low. You hate your body. Or maybe menopause hit you like a ton of bricks and you aren't coping well with all your body changes.
Scared - because you feel miles away from the man next to you in bed, and don't know how to connect emotionally or physically.
Frustrated by his lack of interest at times. Or his overt/non - stop interest.
Maybe your sex life is PRESSURE instead of a PLEASURE!
You need to get re-energized, refueled, and revitalized.
YOU'RE NOT ALONE!
I'd love to support you and help you make those intimate moments behind the bedroom door magical again!
Let me help you claim the SATISFYING, EXHILARATING sex life God wants you to have!
Gain even more confidence between the sheets.
Communicate on a deeper level about your own needs and wants.
Learn more about how your husband is uniquely wired.
Acquire new creative, fun, affordable ideas for hot monogamy to bring fresh energy to your relationship.
Obtain Biblical directives on how to enjoy a God-honoring deeper, stronger intimate life.
My name is Ruth Clarence. I've been married to my wonderful husband Simon for more than 30 years, have two young adult married children and am a grandmother. I've been a pastor's wife and a school teacher.
These days, I'm known as the "Christian Dr. Ruth" or the "Sex Lady"
No, I'm not a professional sex therapist, but I am a counsellor/coach who has published two best selling books, entitled, Hot and Holy Lady and Firestarters.
I've appeared on many radio and TV shows, and have travelled the world conducting live seminars to over 20,000 women over the past two decades.
Because too many Christian women like you and me have been told it’s not nice or godly to talk or even think about sex. We’ve heard sex is necessary evil that is only meant for making babies. Many have been misled to believe we can’t enjoy sex, we can only endure it.
Maybe your mom sabotaged your sex life with her discouraging comments, or your pastor never addressed this important topic from the pulpit.
Many of my seminar participants share I am the first Christian women who has tackled this sensitive subject in a very tasteful, humorous, practical and meaningful way.
Because I’m an empty nest wife now, and have been around the block a few times or should I say “the bed a few times”, I can relate to many of the same experiences my audiences have experienced and can share Biblical guidance, straight talk and creative tips on how to maneuver through them with confidence and grace.
As an engaged gal, I was stressing about whether I could keep my new husband happy? Would I measure up/ Meet expectations? How do I prepare? Who do I talk to about these legitimate concerns?
Maybe you didn’t have a mom, didn’t get along with yours, or your mother didn’t talk to you about sex at all. Let me be your “Mom Mentor” and help set you up for success/freedom in the bedroom.
Perhaps you don’t wish to mimic the poor relationship skills of your mom and want to proactively equip yourself to be a red hot lover right from the get go.
Yes! I can steer you in the right direction! Be way ahead of the game in this area!
Overcome your fears and inhibitions - Be relaxed, confident, and empowered to be the ‘hottie’ you dreamed about becoming!
Download below the TOP TEN CRITICAL QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE YOUR WEDDING NIGHT! Be prepared girl!
I can relate to the new nervous bride. In the first few months of our marriage, my husband Simon asked me sincerely if he “was meeting my sexual needs?”
“Meeting my sexual needs!!!??? –You are meeting needs I don’t even have!!! Exceedingly abundantly above all I could ask or think!!”
I honestly thought I had married a sex maniac and was overwhelmed by his interest in this area of our marriage.
Helping many newlywed ladies find their way around a new king size mattress and start them off on the right foot with practical counsel has been a delight! And I can coach you!
The baby, preschool years… I remember looking at my post-baby body complete with stretch marks, flabby stomach, leftover fat, and was not feeling very sexy at all.
After caring for our two babies all day, Simon often found himself in bed with an exhausted zombie. A zombie who loved him very much, but a person, on some occasions, had very little to offer in the way of passionate lovemaking…
At times after the children had been demanding my undivided attention around the clock and crawling all over me all day, the prospects of another person wanting more attention was a not a joyful thought.
I would just settle in bed and think “Thank you God no one is calling my name,” and then came a hand reaching across the bed…… Some of you will know exactly what I mean!!
Had my libido left when I delivered my babies??? Could I love my husband with this new, NOT improved body? Where was I going to get the energy?
Connecting with my husband on an emotional level, not just the physical realm was also a struggle at times.
I can assist young moms with many practical creative strategies on how to regain their sexual passion and move their sex life from the back burner to the piping hot front burner.
Then the menopausal empty next years hit. For those of you in this season, you know everything is heading SOUTH.
Like my girlfriend shared: “My boobs are hanging so low, I just tuck them in my pantyhose!”
Yes, the depletion of estrogen, some health issues, and being stuck in a predictable boring rut can contribute to your lack of interest and zest for sex.
As this cartoon below says:
I found this season to be very challenging with all the physical changes taking place in my body as well as my husbands. You can, however, discover the secrets to enjoying a great intimate life even after 50.
I’ve had lots of tension, frustration, and disillusionment.
At times I had lost my sexual passion, didn’t understand my husband, couldn’t communicate with him about our bedroom life and quite frankly, the sizzle had turned to fizzle.
Often, I felt guilty, angry, and inadequate – but through years of challenging, stretching experiences, I have learned how to maintain a fulfilling passionate mutually satisfying intimate life.
Keyword – LEARNED. Contrary to popular belief, you weren’t born with the skill – it is a learned skill.
Believe me, If I can learn – so can you!!
The turning point in my sexual life was when I realized my genitals were not my most important sex organ, but rather my brain.
My brain, or should I say “computer,” had been programmed with a lot of inaccurate, negative information about sex.
When I began to REPROGRAM my “computer/brain” and add new data, reformat old files, delete and banish some mental viruses to the recycle bin forever -- my sex life really took off.
If I THOUGHT correctly about sex, it certainly affected my feelings, and my genitals took care of themselves. It all started with my BRAIN. – Wow! what a transformation took place!
The old adage is true .....
“Change your Thoughts, Change Your Life.”
So I’ve been there, done that –, I can relate, I understand a lot of the frustrations, challenges, issues, and journey of a Christian woman’s sexual life.
I can help you AVOID SOME OF THE MISTAKES I’ve made, share many GREAT TIPS AND PROVEN STRATEGIES to help you regain your sexual passion, and DISCOVER SECRETS of an exciting bedroom life.
That’s why I am so incredibly passionate about sharing with ladies of all ages my HOT and HOLY LADY course.
My participants tell me they love that I am addressing this traditional taboo topic in a very Biblical, tasteful, and humorous way.
I answer so many of their questions that have transformed their thinking and sex life!
She told me her sex life was almost non-existent and was a constant source of tension.
Talking to her mom or minister’s wife was not an option and she certainly didn’t like to share her bedroom life with her girlfriends. She felt so alone, was desperate for help and didn’t know where to turn.
Being able to take the Hot and Holy Lady course anonymously, at her own leisure, gaining fresh insights and encouragement was a huge advantage and stress reliever.
After completing the course, she shared she was a changed, excited, and motivated woman.
She declared, “I’ve learned so much I can implement right away! I did not understand how God viewed sex, how my past was affecting my present sexual life, how my husband was wired, how to talk to my mate about sexual matters and how to plan an exciting sexual/romantic life. My thoughts have certainly changed in so many areas. I learned so many doable strategies that rejuvenated and revitalized my sex life immensely.”
She called me a couple of months later and shared that her husband didn’t know what hit him;
He said he was crawling into bed with a brand-new sexually confident woman!!
Amy’s thoughts...
“Earlier this year, when I was 8 months pregnant with our second child, I took Ruth’s “Hot and Holy Lady” course. I was SO glad I did. Three months into marriage my husband and I found out we were pregnant. We have now been married three and a half years and I have been pregnant or nursing the entire time. By taking this course, I was encouraged to pursue the type of exotic and romantic love that the BIBLE describes in Song of Solomon.
I learned that a woman’s most important sex organ …. Is her BRAIN!!! Of course, hormones have a lot to do with the struggle during this time, but also body image and emotions. It really starts with correct thinking patterns. I sure changed my thoughts on a lot of issues. I will carry the advice and knowledge I gained from Ruth for many years to come!”
A note from Jenna...
“My name is Jenna …..and I attended the “Hot and Holy Lady” when I was engaged. I felt the course opened my eyes to areas that I had overlooked during our years of dating. It prepared me for some of the more realistic struggles ahead in marriage rather than being caught up in the clouds.
Ruth provided real examples I could relate to and encouraged me that things I find frustrating were normal and could totally be worked through!
I enjoyed her humor coupled with Biblical truth and would highly recommend the course to anyone engaged or married.
I believe this course fast tracked my husband and I as we were able to dialogue about topics she brought up before the wedding night and this prepared us in many ways for a long and happy marriage.”
A word from Shirley...
“Where was this course forty years ago? FINALLY, someone has addressed this traditionally taboo topic in a very tasteful, yet frank, informative manner. I’m so glad I took the course; you are never too old to improve! A course every woman should take no matter what her age!!”
Melissa shares...
“The information given in this course enlightened me to many aspects of intimacy that I was previously unaware of…lots of new Biblically based information that sure wasn’t talked about at my church.
I will be a better wife and lover as a result. My attitude and thoughts have changed toward my husband’s needs and my desire to meet them for sure.
I took this course when I was a very busy mother of two preschoolers. I really needed help with new ideas to keep the sparks alive during this exhausting season. I appreciated the fact that Ruth was an ordinary Christian woman, like me. She inspired me!
I really appreciated the questions for reflection at the end of each module. The guide helped me uniquely apply this excellent material!”
Matilda relates...
“I loved this course! Ruth is real – down to earth! It is nice to know someone else has had the same frustrations and inhibitions. I am normal! I really appreciated Ruth’s honesty, frankness and transparency. I can relate to her in so many stages of my marriage.
As a mom of teenagers, our schedule is so crazy. Ruth’s course helped me realize that making time for dates, love and romance and investing into my marriage is an important thing
This course took my already great marriage to the next level and gave me so many practical ideas and great tips to enjoy my sex life even more!! Woo hoo!
Hot and Holy Lady!! That’s me!! My husband is smiling from ear to ear!”
Kelsey writes...
“My husband and I have been impacted greatly by the “Hot and Holy Lady” course. It created a language and gave us a new understanding of each other within our sexuality. The information was encouraging, positive and beautifully framed God’s view of sex.
I didn’t feel alone as it removed any shame associated with struggles with sex during pregnancy, postpartum, and stages of motherhood. It was full of practical advice and comical metaphors that have had a long-lasting impact as we live our best life together!”
An eye opener...
"Ruth’s course was an eye opener! My Filipino culture did not address this topic at all and I sure learned a lot of new information about godly sex.
As a newly married woman this course gave me new strategies and much helpful information on how to love and understand my husband so much better!! Take the course ladies!! Really worth the time and money for sure!"
Every day counts...
“Marriages goes through seasons and even though I have been married for a long time I liked the quote that Ruth used in the course... ‘Life is not a rehearsal-you don’t have a chance for a rerun’.
The course reminded me that every day counts and what how I respond intimately with my spouse does continue to matter….for the rest of our life together!
Would highly recommend this course – it will give you some fresh insights and practical help in this important area of sexuality.”
Combat the many myths of marriage...
“As an engaged woman I found it to be a great course to combat the many myths of marriage we pick up throughout our lives. Ruth kept it light hearted and fun but also very applicable and even spiritual. Following the course, I was able to seamlessly approach our marriage with confidence and excitement. I would definitely recommend this course to both married and engaged women of all ages!”
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Consists of 8 modules designed to give heterosexual, monogamous, engaged/married women of all ages candid, frank talk and Biblical truth about sex.
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Each module consists of several 5-15 minute sections with accompanying handouts and study guide.
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When you enroll in my online course, you will be assigned a private password to log on to the site anytime you wish.
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Access the audio or video modules in the comfort of your own home, listen to them in the car, or at the gym – virtually any time at your convenience.
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Binge watch or slowly, methodically work through the course at your leisure. Your choice.
BONUS: You will receive a copy of my book HOT AND HOLY LADY at the end of course for easy referral.
BONUS: I share over 80 creative, affordable, ideas to add spark and sizzle to your sex life... many exciting FIRESTARTERS to Ignite your Intimacy!!!
BONUS SESSIONS: In addition to my course, I have interviewed a PELVIC FLOOR SPECIALIST, A FITNESS INSTRUCTOR, MEDICAL DOCTOR answering many pertinent questions related to your sex life. You will find these sessions so insightful and helpful.
ADDITIONAL COACHING: You can access a private 45 minute confidential phone conversation with me (Ruth) to discuss the course, ask a specific question(s) you may have, and help in uniquely applying the information to your relationship.
Ladies love that they can finally talk to someone who makes them feel normal and understood in private. (You will book your appointment online.)
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What does God really think about sex?
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Where to find steamy tips for intoxicating, ecstatic lovemaking right in the Bible.
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Why enjoying the "fleshly" sensuous pleasures of marital love is actually, one of the most spiritual things you can do.
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Is it possible to be godly and sensuous at the same time?
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How to release your painful past to experience a liberating, sex life - enjoy fabulous freedom.
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How to forgive your abusers and move on.
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How to become as sexually confident woman.
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How to respond if your husband always has the urge to merge and is constantly on the prowl.
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The surprisingly simple but profound spiritual exercise you can do today to help you claim and celebrate your God-given sexual potential.
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What are the top four sexual characteristics of most men you must know?
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What to do if you have lost your sexual passion.
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How to respond when your husband is the one with the headache.
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Help for the sex starved marriage.
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How to use the “menu planning approach to sexual relations that cuts out guesswork, mind games and power struggles so sex is a win-win
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My 3-5 minute secret to radically infuse energy into your sex life.
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How to respond if you have a greater sex drive than your husband.
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Why your body, just as it is, is guaranteed to turn your husband on, once you make a crucial shift in your thinking.
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What are the two top ways to turn on your husband?
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How to set boundaries in the bedroom.
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How to recover from infidelity.
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Strategies for muscling through those exhausting preschoolers’ years -Having a baby and raising kids should not make you celibate!
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Why you need to understand the seasons of a marriage and how they affect your love life.
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How to plan a successful getaways and steamy theme nights.
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What men are really saying when they ask you to wear something sexy to bed.
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Why it is critically important you talk candidly with your fiancée about sexual histories and expectations before after your wedding.
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How to cope if sex is painful.
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Discover the #1 reason women don’t want sex.
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Specific ideas for pleasing and affirming your husband that can fuel much greater passion.
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What men wish their wives knew about who does what in bed. Critical connections men make between what goes on in the bedroom and the rest of our marriage that you can’t afford to miss if you want to keep him happy and faithful.
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The 4 most common roadblocks that keep couples from communicating freely about sex and how you and your husband can get around them.
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Many pertinent questions you can ask your husband and yourself to spark the open honest conversations you need to make your sex life more generous and joyful.
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How taking time to map out special love moments nourishes your marriage on every level.
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Learn an easy-to -implement strategy to help you focus on and reach meaningful goals in your marriage.
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How to inject everyday moments with marital magic to turn them into real romance boosters.
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The surprising lessons you can learn from one of the Bible’s most scandalous women about making your husband happy.
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Biblical proof that God designed women to enjoy sex as much as men.
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How to embrace your God-given sexuality without guilt or inhibition.
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Why spontaneous sex isn’t always the best sex.
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Critical questions to ask before having an intimate conversation.
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Discover the biggest enemy of your sex life.
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Learn many creative, fun, affordable ways to say I love you. Enhance your romance!
In the future, the course will be priced at $397,
but when you act NOW during this limited offer,
the investment will be $297.00.
Enrol now!
Trust me it will be worth your time and effort!
Think of it girls, you spend $100 on your hair, mani, pedi, or a tank of gas, and later you have nothing to show for it…
But this is an INVESTMENT IN YOU!!
YOU will be a HAPPIER, MORE LIBERATED, INFORMED WIFE, which will ENHANCE and ENRICH your marriage in many, many ways!!
ELIMINATE stress, frustration, anger, anxiety, awkwardness, fear.
EXPERIENCE peace, calm, harmony, closeness, mutual fulfillment and deep satisfaction, fresh energy/enthusiasm, more self confidence in your bedroom!
ENJOY the invigorating, irresistible incredible intimacy you crave!
Become a HOT and HOLY lady!
Take the risk!
NOTE:
Taking my online course is NOT necessarily an admission you are struggling or dysfunctional in this area, but rather an admission you have a great marriage you wish to make greater.
Who can’t use a little coaching on how to be a better lover than you already are!!
You Bet He Does!!
It was His idea for us to delight in our sexual intimacy and for sex to be a great perk in marriage — intended for pleasure!!
I look forward to partnering with you to create and maintain a top-drawer love life…Oh la la!
Warmly,
Ruth
The Hot and Holy Lady
ruth@hotandholylady.com
P.S. This course makes a great wedding, shower or anniversary gift!
Purchase this course for a daughter, granddaughter, or friend.
Invest in their relationship! Set them up for success!!